Sep 24, 2018

Onus

In a marriage, everyone has to adjust... The girl, the guy and the families.

But, the reason behind marriage changes the equations quite a bit....a marriage which was arranged leads to a couple in which the partners adjust for each other so as to make the other more comfortable in the new set of changes in living... The partner will make changes in his family situations so that the other one feels home...they will back them up and even encourage changes in the family by themselves. The onus is on the family.

In a love marriage, however, the onus is on you... You are supposed to change yourselves for whatever situation is different for you and not the family or the other partner ... and this fact leads to a lot of testing of the love for which you chose to marry in the first place.

Time and again your love will be tested and your patience examined. Times when you are taken for granted happens in every relationship... The onset, however, is earlier in a love versus an arranged marriage.

Sep 19, 2018

Turn of generations

The calendars have changed many a pages and the clock has done it's million-eth round....the generations have turned.

Writing was a passion, spending time with friends was fun, and socializing was just normal. Now, this is all in the virtual space and it has become totally impersonal.

People write all the time, every single second...they practically think on the internet and not in the mind, and express even before running it by themselves again.

They post pictures, of all the things they see and of all the moments they spend...they store the memories in the camera and not in their subconscious self. This compartment was always there in us whenever we wanted to go back...but now we have hard drives and cloud storage for that.

Spending time with friends was about talking on random things, day to day life, our feelings, our emotions and our family, but now it is about updating it on the social media, saying a lot of good words about them and silently being either jealous or happy by comparing our lives, posing pictures and just chatting over WhatsApp as per our convenience.

Socializing was fun, we would just meet people, be nice, get some inspirations to add something to our personalities but now it is a waste of time...you can learn that by the videos that run accross and the long stories that keep on circulating infinite number of times. We start finding faults in people rather than searching for qualities. 

The good old times have gone and the new generation is really new... And I am becoming like that aunty we had who used to say, "Humare time mein to aise hota tha, vaise hota tha. Ye sab to achcha nahi hai, wo golden time tha....blah blah and blah blah".... :D

Yeah, to bring it and announce it out ...I touched 30. Yes, I did. And it made me realize how orthodoxly modern I am. Accepting and embracing the new fads and simultaneously bickering about them for being utterly useless.

I hope you all are doing fine....;)